WHAT ARE TANTRUMS ???
- Screaming
- Crying
- Kicking
- Pleading
- Pointing fingers
- Pouting
- Duration can be seconds to minutes typically
- Most common for ages 2 to 4 but can occur at any age (80% of children)
Why do kids throw tantrums?
- Frustrated with a task
- Trying to develop independence skills, do things on their own
- To get what they want
- To get parents attention
- To get out of what they don’t want to do
I CAN'T HEAR YOU, SO I DON'T HAVE TO DO IT !!
PAY ATTENTION TO ME !!
I WANT, I WANT, I WANT !!
CAN OCCUR AT ANY TIME OR ANYPLACE
HOW DO PARENTS FEEL AFTER TANTRUMS??
WHEN TO BE CONCERNED ??
- Lasts for long periods of time
- Involves aggression
- Occurs frequently
- Causes distress to family
- Interferes with daily living
If Not Managed, Can Result In Serious Behavior Problems. So proper management and consultation with your Family Doctor is a MUST...
HOW TO MANAGE ??
To Manage Temper Tantrums, Parents Have the Main
Role
1. Encourage/increase appropriate behavior
- Differential Attention i.e. To Attend to average behavior & To Praise exceptional behavior
- Child’s Game i.e. A relationship-building activity that makes children want to earn your POSITIVE attention.
- Sticker Charts/Grab Bag Prizes i.e. For Bedtime routine, morning routine and Daily prizes for overall behavior etc.
- 2. Decrease inappropriate behavior by Time out
- Time out is the removal of attention, tangibles, or anything interesting to the child for a brief amount of time.
Common mistakes parents make
- Talking to child in time out
- Having time out be too long
- Not having child do what is expected following the time out
- Not expecting extinction burst
“Tantrums are not bad behavior. Tantrums are an expression of emotion that became too much for the child to bear. No punishment is required. What your child needs is compassion and safe, loving arms to unload in.”
Dr Mohit Bansal
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