Temper Tantrums

WHAT  ARE  TANTRUMS  ???

•     Screaming
•     Crying
•     Kicking
•     Pleading
•     Pointing fingers
•     Pouting
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• Duration can be seconds to minutes typically
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• Most common for ages 2 to 4 but can occur at any age (80% of children)

Why do kids throw tantrums?

•      Frustrated with a task
•      Trying to develop independence skills, do   things on their own
•    To get what they want
•    To get parents attention
•    To get out of what they don’t want to do

I  CAN'T  HEAR  YOU, SO I DON'T  HAVE TO  DO  IT !!

PAY  ATTENTION  TO ME !!

I  WANT,  I WANT,  I WANT !!

CAN  OCCUR  AT  ANY TIME  OR  ANYPLACE

HOW  DO  PARENTS  FEEL  AFTER  TANTRUMS??

WHEN  TO  BE  CONCERNED ??

•     Lasts for long periods of time
•     Involves aggression
•     Occurs frequently
•     Causes distress to family
•     Interferes with daily living

If  Not  Managed, Can  Result  In  Serious  Behavior  Problems. So proper management and consultation with your Family Doctor is a MUST...

HOW  TO  MANAGE ??

 

To Manage Temper Tantrums, Parents Have the Main

Role

1. Encourage/increase appropriate behavior

•     Differential Attention i.e. To Attend to average behavior & To Praise exceptional behavior

•      Child’s Game i.e. A relationship-building activity that makes children want to earn your POSITIVE attention.
•      Sticker Charts/Grab Bag Prizes i.e. For Bedtime routine, morning routine and Daily prizes for overall behavior  etc.

• 2. Decrease inappropriate behavior  by Time out
•      Time out is the removal of attention, tangibles, or anything interesting to the child for a brief amount of time.

Common mistakes parents make

•      Talking to child in time out
•      Having time out be too long
•      Not having child do what is expected following the time out
•      Not expecting extinction burst

“Tantrums are not bad behavior. Tantrums are an expression of emotion that became too much for the child to bear. No punishment is required. What your child needs is compassion and safe, loving arms to unload in.” 

                                                       

                                                              Dr Mohit Bansal